Hi,
Would like to add a very BM Lilithy experience 'coninciding' with the Eclipse period. My BM Lilith is exactly opposed my natal sun, axis 10 deg Pisces (in 2) - Virgo (in 8). Lilith has been transiting Virgo very slowly this last year, and I have gone through a lot of anger, pain and finally some transformation of this energy, but that has only really happened the last month or so, actually since Lilith transited my natal Mercury in 8.
I spent the last hour watching Oprah, a show where deceived and deserted women told their stories. While watching it suddenly understood that I've lived a fantasy with my last lover, and that I need to change what caused me to fall for that.
It took me so long to leave the dream, the idealization behind, always supposed he would show up some day and tell me he was sorry he did what he did, and would tell me that I had been as special to him as he has been to me. Because I believed he cared for me and because we were together for three years and because we shared some intensely intimate very taboo breaking times together, and then suddenly he was gone. Full fledged but flighty rejection. He completely ignored me, which almost got me to be a mad woman. R knew I have been in deep pain and never showed up in any way.
Meeting P (I might not see him anymore, but I do not care that much, he obviously is not 'right enough' at this point) changed the energy I felt.
I cast an horary question on this and Sun and Lilith are conjunct on natal Eros, at 26 deg Virgo.
I realize that with BML so closely opposing the Sun I carried issues about patriarchy and men (and don't we all?) into the world at birth, and I've also learnt there is no 'truth' per se, I truely do realize that to the core of my being, and I know I always carry the danger of huge projection with me with that configuration, and in THAT very sexual house. Said that, I still believe I'm learning day by day, step by step, to nurture and love myself, and realize each moment I am loved by all those lovely, warm people around me, who so clearly know what integrity is.
They might even have invented it!
The solution does not lie in R getting accountable to me, because that is very unlikely to happen, and the wonderful thing is now I really do not need it anymore! The solution, if there is one, lies in being accountable to me, to know where I stand. To live in truth, my truth.
I've been to h*** and back to get here, did not see a reason for living anymore.
This whole thing rattled my value system, second house, through sex/Eros.
The last week I've been able to think about him without pain, and without fantasies about reconciliation, revenge and retribution.
I also started waning of the anti-depressiva very slowly a month ago and so far that has been a blessing. Libido is jubilantly back, which I had lost before the pills anyway! That makes me so happy!
This rings so true, Kim, thank you for this insight. My passion is coming back, my kids even caught my clearing flue and cleared an lot of old junk from their rooms and the living room, which I'd asked them ages ago (old cd's and stuff) and also feel better. This sadness has been a blanket over real happiness in our home.
Good things, miracles, have started happening again.
Sunday night I dreamt I showed my new home to an old male friend of mine, and was surprised to find a big wonderful decorated (by me) bedroom with a wonderful kingsize bed, which I was very proud of, but which I'd obviously had forgotten all about.
I don't believe any longer that my prince will come, I believe there will be another very fallible human being in my life someday, maybe soon, maybe later, maybe never.
P brought the danger of losing me dangerously close again.
Maybe I am not able to be in relationship and not lose me, don't know.
I know I've been in danger of reliving my moms life, (solidarity/loyalty) who never dared to love again after her divorce. But she paid me the best compliment over a year ago, by stating that she's never understood my intensity, even when I was a child was a bit afraid of me, but admires my full zest to live life to its fullest.
In the fashion of one of my male friends I asked the feedback of my male friends, and they all said I've been pretty unapproachable, distant and detached to them, except to my oldest and happily married buddy, for a long time.
The charts fifth house cusp is on Spica, Jupiter is in 5.
Sorry to go on and on and on about it.
I just needed to go more or less public with it.
I know pain is never really 'over', it still hurts, and pain will always return in some form or another. But these last few years have been more 'rewarding' then being a 38 year old sick zombie...
And by tomorrow afternoon the wonderful paintings I made of r will be gone from my Feng Shui relationship corner, as will all computer rubbish.
Also, my psychic abilities seem to blossom.
Into a job coaching project now, and we've discovered that healing seems one of my priorities in life. Kim, your Astrology and Aptitude book is my constant companion right now!
Thanks again, and a lot of blessings to all of you,
Juliet
*removed this post and then posted again, scary.