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Post by pm on Feb 2, 2006 3:35:33 GMT
Hi everyone, I managed to pop into Uni and log on in the computer pools - just to update on this situation...
It looks like I have lost this property settlement battle.
I went to court yesterday for another 'pre-trial conference' which culminated in a very senior QC recommend that I drop the suit - apparently I 'can't win' on points of law relating to 'trust arrangements'. Its heartbreaking for the children and myself but thats the way it has turned out. Luckily, because my legal council feels so responsible for not discovering this technicality way back at the beginning she has assured me that I won't have to pay any fees for this whole process. So really I haven't lost anything. Well, apart from my home and furniture, and a secure future for my children.
So, unless some miracle occurs and the other party offer to settle, its all over - and they win yet again.
I think I'm still in shock about it all!
Hope all is well with everyone... I'm trying to get my internet sorted out at home so that I can check in here more....I'll be back soon.
peace, PM
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Post by Juliet on Feb 2, 2006 13:54:11 GMT
Oh, Prima, how awful. My heart goes out to you... So this was the last you could do??? Hugs and courage... Juliet
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Post by Kim Falconer on Feb 2, 2006 21:42:12 GMT
PM,
That is very disheartening news, save the waved legal fees.
On the bright side, it's over. You can make a clean break now.
Perhaps he will provide for and support his offspring in ways unexpected now.
Blessings, warmth and courage, Kim
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Post by pm on Feb 3, 2006 3:30:28 GMT
thanks everyone yes, its over, a clean start. I'm grieving though, for myself and for my girls who deserve so much better than a father who is the type of man to be so dishonest and irresponsible. I have so much anger at the moment! omg when is anything going to start getting better/easier? pm
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Post by Amoroso on Feb 3, 2006 20:01:02 GMT
Well, PM, I was sorry to read of the outcome, but as you wrote in one of the first posts on your thread
"I've already won' (as in, I have my LIFE back..."
And at some point I would be interested in revisiting the Horary, so we can learn what and where we misinterpreted the chart. Kim's forum is such an unusual place in that we are given an amazing opportunity to learn to interpret and learn from mistakes.
As you know, anger can be a useful thing if it is directed well. When I lost my school to my partner, the first night I was so angry I was literally seeing red spots before my eyes. I took a sleep-aid that didn't do anything, so I got up around 1:00 am and did this dance which involved pretending I was jabbing my third finger up my partner's buttocks for about a half an hour. And then I slept like a baby!!! (I am not too proud to admit this, in the interest of offering sympathy!) I called it the "finger-up-the-butt-dance" and have done it on several other occasions since then....
Amoroso
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Post by pm on Feb 9, 2006 3:45:36 GMT
Hi Amoroso...
lol, yes it helps to do things like your finger dance... I visualise my ex as a bug that I put in a matchbox..small, insignificant and easily disposed of. Thanks for your support, and thanks to everyone here. Definitely we should revisit the chart and the reading of it. It did seem so clear, however it seems to have all happened in reverse. Hmm. More legal happenings this week, this time in relation to the children... of course my lawyer is acting for me without charge (which is great). Big fight with my girls' school headmaster about court orders and I almost had to take them out of the school. more soon, still sorting out the change of internet/email etc but am online at home now! blessings, pm
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Post by Amoroso on Feb 9, 2006 17:18:02 GMT
Hey Kim,
Can we revisit PM's chart on this thread and figure out what was misinterpreted?
The only thing I notice is that the ruler of the 9th (legal matters?) is in opposition to her chart ruler.
My experience with oppositions of the significators in Horary (so far) is that it usually implies either 1) a No to a yes/no question, or 2) Things will not work out the way you are hoping for in the moment you ask the question. That's why the wording of the question seems to be so important.
Others? Has anyone experienced an opposition in Horary otherwise?
Thanks, Amoroso
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Post by samina on Feb 9, 2006 20:16:29 GMT
Prima, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I've been through intense legal battles and know how grueling they can be, even when you're not on the losing end. My heart goes out to you.
Years back I also lost my home in a 4-year legal wrangle that culminated in a 2-week jury trial. The landlord was well-reputed to be Mafia, and the suspicion was that they got to someone in the jury (one is all it takes), and they subsequently were able to crucify me on a technicality -- suddenly, instead of being taken advantage of by people used to doing what they want, the tables turned and I was told I owed *them* tens of thousands of dollars. It was a very grueling time, which also coincided with legal disputes over custody & child support for my children.
But things worked out with the house situation... I gave up my right to appeal & the owners gave up their claim for the money. I moved on and never looked back -- I experienced such Grace in my life at the time, and completely flowed with it. It was magical. I rebuilt my life from scratch, and many, many fortune events came into my life, and both my children and I were very well taken care of by the Universe.
Looking back, I think there is a lot of power to open doors that comes from embracing endings and knowing whole-heartedly that beautiful new beginnings are just a breath away.
I get the feeling you have faced these challenges with a tremendous amount of courage, Prima! And in the wake of these legal matters coming to an end, there's no doubt going to be a veritable *wave* of great new opportunities coming your way!
A couple quotes that gave me a lot of comfort when I was leading up to a similiar crossroads just came to mind. The first was practically a mantra at times. I hope they'll give you even a little bit of the comfort they inspired in me when things looked impossible...
"Give thanks for help unknown, already on the way."
and
"Your need is connected to someone else's; at this very moment someone wants to offer the very thing you seek. Know that the divine connection system is always operating."
A big hug... samina
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Post by Kim Falconer on Feb 9, 2006 23:58:14 GMT
Samina,
I found your post very heartening.
Thank you so much!
Kim
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Post by pm on Feb 10, 2006 0:24:20 GMT
Yes, Samina.. thank you I am feeling that hug.... ... Its amazing how 'technicalities' can turn everything around... and you are so right about embracing endings and doors opening. Amoroso... have been thinking about the importance of asking the right question and with the right phrasing... perhaps because in my mind I had been telling myself (over a long period of time) I'd 'already won' the question 'will I win my property settlement' was compromised...? It would seem to contradict my conviction that the actual legal/monetary outcome was unimportant compared to the greater framework of my life with my girls. Of course when I asked the question, in my mind I was thinking 'will we get any money out of this?'. I think also I am still hoping for a miracle - a document that has mysteriously gone missing that may show up and save the day, or my ex mother-in-law might grow a conscience and speak up. Not likely. Acceptance is hard to come by at the moment! love and light to all, PM
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Post by Amoroso on Feb 10, 2006 22:20:31 GMT
Yes, PM- I seem to remember when you posted this chart that it didn't "feel" right to me. Why I, a perfect stranger, would have that reaction is beyond me, but we seem to find connections on this forum!
Amoroso
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Post by primamateria on Feb 11, 2006 0:56:38 GMT
Amoroso, you're right about the connections thing... its wonderful the way the people here have intuitions about each other and provide so much support. joy! pm
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Post by pm on Feb 12, 2006 2:54:00 GMT
just a quick thought... the time I cast the chart for??? « Reply #3 on Jan 13, 2006, 11:36pm » is the time I asked - but may have converted the time incorrectly - what time zone is this forum set to?? pm
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Post by primamateria on Feb 12, 2006 3:00:01 GMT
darn, that was a false alarm... just checked and double checked and the time/date is correct. I'll have to find another scapegoat for this disaster lol. pm
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Post by Kim Falconer on Feb 12, 2006 21:20:41 GMT
Hi PM, & Everyone,
The forum is set for GMT +00:00
Kim
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