T. Pluto c. Eros, t. Juno c. Node

[uberblonde]

And progressed Eros conjunct Mars! My love life is presently a big fat zero - just ended a relationship of seven years. Any thoughts?

[Kim Falconer]

Hello Uberblonde,

Welcome to the forum.

I can imagine you wondering about what is happening with your natal Node, Eros and Mars all activated. Where is the action?

I am also not surprised that, for now, it is a big fat zero. Whatever else Pluto is doing in your chart, or any other outer planet transits for that matter, I know that it can coincide with separation and times of being alone. Eros, like Pluto, is about transformation, and part of that journey seems to be by oneself.

Juno on the Node can get you in touch with what you intrinsically want and need when it comes to connection with another. What are you willing to committe to? With your North Node in Capricorn, you may need to commit (Juno) to a sense of self-sufficiency (Cap) before you form a new attachment.

Progressed Eros on Mars can stimulate your drive to initiate and self direct. It gets you in touch with what you passionately want in life, and Pluto over Eros can guarantee that if your current relationship is not authentic then it is going to change, or separate.

Where is transiting Uranus right now? You mentioned a 7 year relationship and that is how long Uranus stays in one sign. Whatever was activated when you began relating would be reactivated now.

Sometimes the universe contrives for us to be on our own and what we discover during that time allows us to relate again in new and more authentic ways. How close are the aspects? What is happening with Saturn and your moon? What do you think being “out of relationship” is offering you at this time? What are you doing instead?

Let us know how this fits.

Warmly,
Kim

[uberblonde]

Thanks for the feedback. Oh, I've been trying my darndest to get on my feet financially for 18 years now, since my divorce. I kept my kids fed and a roof over our heads, but it's been a real struggle.

Now I've been laid off four times in the last three years and it's so hard getting back on my feet. So few jobs out there... and I'm about to be evicted.

I've been alone, for all practical purposes. He has children and lives with someone else. He says he won't break up with her unless I'm financially stable. I understand his reluctance - but I can't forgive it. (I've never taken a dime from him, by the way.)

Uranus is transiting my 5th house (Pisces), making no aspects.

Transiting Saturn's at 24 Cancer, approaching a conjunction with my Jupiter (26) and Uranus (27) at the MH. Natal Uranus opposes natal (23 Cap) AND transiting (24 Cap) Chiron.

Progressed Saturn (13 Sco) is in orb of a conjunction with my natal moon (15 Sco). Oh, great - two more years of this?

Let's see. Progressed Juno is conjunct my natal Neptune and ASC at 25 Libra; progressed Venus conjunct natal Venus, trining natal Uranus.

[Kim Falconer]

Hi Uberblonde,

I have a lot of admiration for you. I was a single mother for 15 years and I deeply respect and understand the challenges you meet and handle.

I am optimistic about transiting Saturn’s approach to the MC/Ur/Jupiter conjunction. This could be a time of solid and committed advances in your career, mission, profession. Be ready for change of a positive nature.

I also wouldn’t cringe at Progressed Saturn to the Moon. I have seen people build houses and/or completely restructure their emotional lives under this configuration. It can be hard work, but the results are worth it.

You have been seeing a guy who lives with another woman for seven years? OUCH. Than doesn’t sound too nurturing, unless you really enjoy the “space” and freedom it implies. Maybe now is a very good time to make a fresh start if you want something different.

Warm wishes,
Kim